Do you relate to this? It seems so silly, but there is truth in the fact that a compliment can make or break us - in the long term.
Often in life, we receive compliments from people that are
true, but the person ends up disappointing us.
In our minds, the compliment can become a lie from that other person,
and if the compliment is given again, it may be received as a lie.
I’m learning this.
There are good things – gifts – God has placed inside of me. I’ve been complimented on them before and
been burned by the person giving the compliment. Later, these same compliments become a poison
that holds me back from growing in the gift, because I’ve received them as a
lie.
I’m also learning to take a compliment as a statement, give
it to God, and ask Him what He thinks.
He alone can affirm or deny the validity of the compliment.
The deeper issue here is this: I’m learning to find my
affirmation in God, and not in people.
It’s easy to feed off of the affirmation of people when you’re a
do-gooder like me. But I’ll never be
satisfied with the affirmation of a person unless I’m secure in my affirmation with
God. And because of Jesus, He affirms
me.
I don’t believe compliments or affirmation are bad. In fact, this is one way to speak love into
people’s lives! I believe it can become
an idol for me if I know I’m pleasing the person by affirming them, though; and
it can become an idol for them if they live for that affirmation alone.
Am I trying to win the approval of people, or of God? Am I trying to please people, or God? If I am trying to please people, I am not a
true follower and servant of Christ Jesus.
(Galations 1:10)
While I think many people
may be disappointed to know it, I no longer hope to please them. My first priority is to please God, and when
I do that, He makes good things come from my decisions – even if they are
difficult to swallow at first. But generally, my choice to please God is a blessing to those around me.
How would your decisions be different if you questioned them in this light?